The word shame is such a loaded word. I was thinking about it in relation to the recent rape case and indeed all the parties involved. What about Shame versus Guilt, are they the same? I am bad – I did something bad.
We all live with some shame whether it is about an emotion instilled when growing up – ashamed of our family – where we grew up – how we did in school – etc. etc. Depending on the words we use, the intensity of the shame may feel like embarrassment mild or otherwise. Our body language can express shame and can be obvious to others, lowering of the head, avoiding eye contact blushing and slumping the shoulders. Do any of these expressions ring any bells?
It can be an interesting exercise for all of us to look at how our shame has shaped our lives and learn how to deal with our perceptions.
Check out Christiane Sandersons book on Shame.